5 Ways To Pull Yourself Out of Negativity

5 Ways To Pull Yourself Out of Negativity 

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There is no doubt that we often fall into a negative mind-set. Maybe you had a bad day at work or you got every red light heading to the grocery store. It happens. It's okay. But remember not to stay down the the well of negativity. There are many ways you can lift yourself back up!

1. Turn To Someone - If you have a loved one that has a similar way of thinking as you do (when you are being positive), then turn to them in your difficult moment. They can help cheer you up and remind you how wonderful it is to be happy and positive. They can also remind you to look on the brighter side of life. There are much worse things than being late to work or dropping your lunch on the ground.

2. Watch a Comedy - It's good for you to smile, it helps the positivity swarm around you, BUT, it's even better if you laugh! Turn towards your favorite comedy movie. Invite a friend over to watch it with you and just laugh away. After it's over, you will feel much better. I promise! 

3. Pick up a Hobby - Unless you already have one you love. Doing something you love and that really brings you joy will help lift your mood back up. Sometimes I pick up a book to read or do arts and crafts. Most of the time, your hobby can be a stress reliever without you even realizing. If your hobby allows you to focus in on what you are doing and forget about the world outside, then that might be exactly what you need! 

4. Sleep - Sometimes when we are feeling down, all we need is a good power nap. After, you might feel so much better and forget about whatever happened that brought you down in the first place.

5. Meditate - Allow yourself to slow down for a moment. Put on some soft music, lay down and close your eyes, and let the music take you away into the area where your true happiness resides, your soul! Meditating has been used for a very long time to re-focus ourselves and has been known to heal. If you never meditated before don't feel like you won't be any good at it. It is very simple. Stay open minded and you can do it!

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Sara 

www.happinesstalks.com 

Power

Let's Talk POWER...

Power, its one of our most priceless personal assets, but we tend to give it away, and in some cases, throw it away to any person or situation that upsets us. We feel powerful and strong when things are going our way, its easy to do that. But the measure of True POWER is standing strong in the moment of adversity. Great people did not achieve greatness by throwing the towel in, by throwing themselves a pity party, by giving there power up to difficulties. NO! They stood tall and pushed through no matter what! They had that.....”Nothing and no one is going to stop me attitude!” I believe weakness is nothing more then a habit we picked up and learned. The good news about that is, habits can be broken. Being comfortable with your own power can be achieved! It takes practice. When you catch yourself feeling weak, stop, recognize it and be willing to change it. All it takes is a decision! Decide to know and hold on to your power.

I had a cat named Talula. She was old and feeble (but not really). She knew her power. When my daughters mastiff, Scarlet, would visit. This huge mountain of a dog would quiver at the sight of the small simple cat. I use to laugh and say, “that dog does not know her power, but that cat sure does.” I can't help but believe we are the same way in life. A small situation arises in our life and hisses at us and we quiver in the presence of it because we perceive it to be much stronger, bigger and more powerful then us. But in truth, we are so much more powerful then anything that confronts us. We just need to hold on to that power, through thick and thin. Power is like a muscle, the more you use it the stronger you will get. Faith and trust in your self are the barbells to help develop this muscle. So don't let anything stand in the way of your happiness and peace! Know your Power!

                                                                   Anne
                                                            Happiness Talks

                               

    

Resistance

Let's Talk Resistance..

What is resistance? I have heard so many times over and over, that no one else is stopping your good from coming to you, you are doing it yourself. Ok, so how am I doing that? For sure there must be an unseen force out there stopping me, because I sure wouldn't do it my self. Well, as it turns out, both are true. Another name for this force and resistance is EGO. And most of us, although unaware of it, have given way to much control and power to our ego. And how did we do that? By giving into it so much. Why do we give into it? Because it uses our stored up memories and beliefs from our sub conscious to validate its reasoning.

For instance, when we decide that we want to try something new to better our lives, Resistance steps in.

How? In the form of Excuses! I don't have time for that...I don't have enough money to do that.. I'm afraid I'll make a mistake..I tried but then things started to go wrong so I quit..I tried once before and it didn't work...I could go on and on, but I think you get the point. Even if all is well, we can create problems so that we have excuses to stay in our comfort zone.

Now, we don't want to fight the ego. After all, it believes it is trying to save us from pain and heartache. So, all we need to do is make peace with it. How? By just recognizing, resistance/ego/excuses, when it shows up. And gently say to yourself."It's ok, I'll be ok, I can do this. Thank you for helping, I know you mean well, but I can handle this." Then start to take steps in the direction you want to go. Make a decision, and take the first step to learn how to dance, learn to play the piano, clean out that closet, to start eating healthy, to start being positive. There are many free videos on YouTube to just about learn anything. Once we lessen the ego's power, it will stop giving us so much grief and will allow us to be open and receptive to our desires. You can do this, it may take a little effort, but you are worth it!

                                                            Anne

                                                    
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It's a Choice

It seems like it has become popular to give up on being positive and this 'lifestyle' after a certain amount of time. I'm not sure why this is, but I can say that I have experienced this multiple time. 

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In the past, I have made the choice to be positive and look for the good in everything. Usually, I keep it up for a few weeks but then I give up at it. Research has shown us that it takes 21 days to create a habit. Now, some may say, believe, or think that bigger tasks might take longer than the 21 day mark. Why do we give up on ourselves in this way? Mostly because those negative factors come in and take over when the positive factors aren't strong enough yet. I think that probably plays a major role in it. 

I have made the vow to myself to not stray off the path this time. I have been doing it for about a month and a half now and my drive for wanting to stay positive is stronger than ever! I know for a fact that I don't want to look back at my life at the age of 50 and regret all the years I wasted. I want to live a fulfilled life doing things that excite me and bring me joy! You should want this too!!! 

A few things that I have been doing to keep myself on this straight and narrow path of posivity... 

1. I have one person that is my rock in this and that person is my husband. If he sees me falling down into the dumps of negativity, he helps lift me right back up where I belong. For his kindness and care, I am so grateful!

2. I try to broaden my knowledge every day. I try to grow every day in a way that I wasn't yesterday. In that past, I didn't do this and you wouldn't believe how much it has been helping me this time around!!

3. I stay aware of my thoughts and actions. This isn't always easy to do but very rewarding when I am able to stick with it. By staying aware, I can catch myself if I am having a bad thought or reliving a negative experience from my past. Easily, I am able to change it over to the good and focus my attention on my blessings. 

Now, nobody is perfect. There are days we may stray away a little bit. There are days I stray away a little bit and that is okay! The important thing to do is recognize we are straying and try to do something to pick ourselves back up! 

What do you do to keep yourself lifted up, positive, and focused on a more fulfilled and rewarding life?

Sara 

Happiness Talks

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Comfort Zone

Comfort Zone - A place, situation, or level where someone feels confident and comfortable.
(Merriam Webster) 

We all love to be in our comfort zones, right? This is a place where we don't have any anxiety or fear or doubt so it's only normal that we wouldn't want to leave this relaxing, promising place. 

Through my recent studies on the law of attraction and getting what you want, I've come to a realization. One that I think is very important. I am not one who takes risks. I'm more so the one saying, "That sounds risky, maybe we shouldn't do that". And what that is, is my fear holding me back. I know this. We have to learn to take risks! It is essential to grow. 

I want you to ask yourself. What is in my comfort zone? You should realize that all that is in your comfort zone is what you currently have. Now, you might say well I don't like having a lack of money. That is a good point. You may not like it, but for some reason you are comfortable with it. This is when you should do some work on yourself to try and figure out why you are so comfortable with what you have and where you are in life. That is a different subject altogether. 

Ask yourself, "What do I really want? If I could have anything right now what would it be?" You might answer with, I want a beautiful, big home on a farm with a barn. As of right now, your desire is outside of your comfort zone. If it was inside of your comfort zone, you would already have it. And this is what I mean when I say we need to take risks. The risk is removing ourselves from our levels of comfort and going to where we have never been before. When we are outside of it, we will be on the same playing field as our desire. In turn, we will be closer to it and once we are comfortable in that area, we will  be in the same zone as our desire, and quite possibly changing it from its imaginative state to it's physical form.

I want to challenge everyone to do one positive thing today that removes you from your comfort zone. I know this may be scary, but see if you can do it! Challenge yourself! 

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Sara 
www.happinesstalks.com

Let's Imagine...

You hear over and over from many different authors, “act as if” you already have what you want. Sometime that can be difficult when you obviously don’t have it in your possession at the moment. It can be frustrating because you feel like your lying to yourself. And when you lie to yourself you can make matters worse. Well, today I would like to help you with that.

According to Bob Procter, “Everything you are seeking is seeking you in return. Therefore, everything you want is already yours. So you don't have to get anything; it is simply a matter of becoming more aware of what you already possess.”

In other words, its already here and its yours, you just have to get into vibrational harmony with it. And if this is true, which I believe it is, we need to convince our minds that what we are seeking has just been misplaced. I'm sure we all have misplaced something at one time or another, we KNOW we have it, we just don't see it. Or how many times were you looking for something and you found something else that you didn't even know you had. I know I have several times. So, if you can accept that you KNOW you have it, and can feel it and declare it, your on your way to receiving it!

So, lets JUST IMAGINE, for a moment, you found what you were seeking.How would that make feel? What would be the first thing you would do? How grateful would you be? Who would you share the good news with? Feel it and picture it in your mind, as long as you can. More then 16 seconds is always good. Do this when ever you think of what it is you want.

That all being said. If you're in a negative mood and you're feeling down, and feeling lack. It won't work. You can't get there from here. You can't be miserable and say positive affirmations and do positive visualization. You would be struggling. Struggling is working against the flow. You need to lift your vibration first. You need to FEEL better. You can do that by meditating, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, Tapping) listening to music, go for a walk, dance, a nap or a shower. What ever will cheer you up. Once you get to a place where you can put a smile on your face, you're ready to go!

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Anne
www.happinesstalks.com

Lets Make a Change

I strongly believe that the subconscious mind plays a strong role in the Law of Attracting what we want. Our subconscious hold our beliefs and what we have been programmed to prior in life through feelings, memories, experiences, etc. For example, you might have a memory of when you were a child and you ate tacos for the first time. You were excited to try something new, however for some reason they made you sick. So now, you are programmed one of two ways - you hate tacos now or you don't like to try new things because that one time you did, it made you sick. Or you could be holding on to both!

If you are stuck in a spot of attracting what you don't want then most likely you are feeding your subconscious mind with feelings of lack, fear, doubt. All we have to do is convert those bad feelings and emotions to good ones! Once we convert them, they will be given to our subconscious mind.

Our subconscious mind does not fight back what we are sending it. It will simply comply with whatever commands we give it. So, if you are feeling a negative feeling from a certain experience, your subconscious mind believes it to be true (even if it is not), and will give you the results that match those feelings.

Lets try and change some of those bad feelings with positive affirmations! There are affirmations for every area of life. You can even make up your own!

Some of my daily affirmations consist of the following: 

I see myself in high places spiritually, emotionally, and physically. 
I bring forward opportunity after opportunity to myself. 
I am successful and wealthy.
I now see myself with abundance and prosperity.

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Sara
www.happinesstalks.com

Be Your Own Creator!

You are your own creator! 

When will all of mankind begin to realize that each and every person has their own destiny right in the palm of their hands? It's true. We are our own creators. Not many of us realize the true power we hold within ourselves. That is the biggest tragedy of them all!

If only everyone knew the control they had over their lives. Now obviously we realize we control our lives to a certain extent. A lot of us don't see that we control EVERYTHING about our lives. We can control the desires and the struggles. 

We create our struggles by putting fear, worry, doubt, etc. into these worries. By giving them attention with those negative thoughts, we are feeding them - much like giving water to a plant. With the proper care, you will have a beautiful garden (positive) - or a field full of weeds (negative). You just have to choose which you want and apply the proper techniques in your life to reach your goal.

So in essence, if we want that beautiful garden, we have to water the seeds in the correct fashion. Feed your mind positive thoughts about your desire, like gratitude, love, and faith. That is just the beginning; but a great start!

Be your own creator - don't wait until tomorrow, life is short! 

Happiness Talks
Sara
www.happinesstalks.com