3 Days

Let's Talk 3Days....
I was raised and always taught, when making a decision about something important, wait 3 days. If I am rushed into a decision that I need to know right at that very moment, my answer is always No. Wait 3 days. It gives you time to process it rationally and emotionally with out force. Even if you are having a bad day or going through a bad time and you just want to give up. Wait 3 days. Your outlook can and usually does totally change after 3 days. This teaching started with my religious upbringing. My dad would say to me, Jesus had the worse day of His life on Friday, but Sunday, 3 days later, He made history. 2000 years later we are still talking about it.
And I must admit, it has always worked for me, even in the very tough times. Or shall I say especially in the tough times. This even works with simple decisions that you really just don't know what to do. I'm not saying constantly think about it for 3 days. I am saying just ask, what shall I do and let it go. The answer will come and be made very clear. You will either see signs or just feel differently about the whole thing. You will be able to make the decision in peace instead of stress.  So, if you are feeling indecisive, pressured, down, frustrated or frightened......Wait 3 Days.
                                                 Anne

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Thoughts

Let's Talk Thoughts.....

When I first started this journey, I read that your suppose to constantly monitor your

thoughts, you were suppose to be careful what you think. Well, all this did was cause me
fear about what I was thinking. It was also causing me much stress watching and examining every one of my thoughts. And I found myself giving up many times because of this. It seemed too hard if not impossible.
What I've come to learn is, if your afraid or stressed, you're doing it wrong. And this goes pretty much for anything. But let's stick with thoughts. What you actually need to do is just be aware of your thoughts. Let them pass through. Thoughts will come and they will go. The secret is letting them go. Take a back seat and watch them go by. What you focus on you get more of. Don't take them so seriously. And whatever you do, don't be afraid of them. Love them and make them your friends. This has worked wonders for me. Just be aware of ones that keep recurring. That is a sign of a belief. So if you don't like that thought or that belief, it's time to change it. Because beliefs are what create your life. If you want to know what your real thoughts are, what your real beliefs are, listen to what you say. Listen to the words that are coming out of you mouth. I surprised myself many times with what I said, even in a joking manner. The good news is thoughts and beliefs and words can be changed. Have fun with it. Relax with it. Also, don't beat yourself up for what you think or say, we are all just learning here. With practice it will all come easy. Believe in yourself!

                                                            Anne

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Letting Go

Let's Talk Letting Go.....

I was sitting on my swing one morning before work and I was enjoying the beautiful autumn colors and the beautiful warm sun on my face. I heard rustling from the trees and looked to see what was making a the noise. The gentle breeze was tossing the leaves back and forth and they were floating to the ground. It was so loud, it got my attention. I've experienced fall many times before, but this time was different. It was as if the trees and leaves were trying to tell me something..... Let Go..... Release.... Just Let Go of what doesn't serve you any more. Because if the leaves stayed on the trees, the weight of the snow and the winter wind could break branches and weaken the tree itself. That could also go for people. If we don't let go our our disappointments, fears, regrets, sorrows, grief of the past, we take it to our future, and that can weigh us down and weaken us. Like the trees, we need to release and let go, so we can move forward with ease into the spring of new birth and growth. A great Letting Go technique is EFT Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping). There are many free videos on YouTube by Brad Yates for EFT. So if your feeling weak, your carrying to much past around. Just Let Go!

Resistance

Let's Talk Resistance..

What is resistance? I have heard so many times over and over, that no one else is stopping your good from coming to you, you are doing it yourself. Ok, so how am I doing that? For sure there must be an unseen force out there stopping me, because I sure wouldn't do it my self. Well, as it turns out, both are true. Another name for this force and resistance is EGO. And most of us, although unaware of it, have given way to much control and power to our ego. And how did we do that? By giving into it so much. Why do we give into it? Because it uses our stored up memories and beliefs from our sub conscious to validate its reasoning.

For instance, when we decide that we want to try something new to better our lives, Resistance steps in.

How? In the form of Excuses! I don't have time for that...I don't have enough money to do that.. I'm afraid I'll make a mistake..I tried but then things started to go wrong so I quit..I tried once before and it didn't work...I could go on and on, but I think you get the point. Even if all is well, we can create problems so that we have excuses to stay in our comfort zone.

Now, we don't want to fight the ego. After all, it believes it is trying to save us from pain and heartache. So, all we need to do is make peace with it. How? By just recognizing, resistance/ego/excuses, when it shows up. And gently say to yourself."It's ok, I'll be ok, I can do this. Thank you for helping, I know you mean well, but I can handle this." Then start to take steps in the direction you want to go. Make a decision, and take the first step to learn how to dance, learn to play the piano, clean out that closet, to start eating healthy, to start being positive. There are many free videos on YouTube to just about learn anything. Once we lessen the ego's power, it will stop giving us so much grief and will allow us to be open and receptive to our desires. You can do this, it may take a little effort, but you are worth it!

                                                            Anne

                                                    
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